Getting over an ex can be hard but it’s nothing you can’t handle. Like seriously, you’ve been alive before you met them and you’re going to survive just fine without them. However, it does take some time. Especially if things ended up rocky. One thing that you need to remember is that no matter what you’re going to be fine.
Once you take the necessary steps to get over your ex, you will found you’re able to move forward in your life. I think that going through this experience has even made me a stronger woman.
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Seriously, go out with your girls. Remind yourself of how much fun life can be without them in your life. Dance, laugh, and dance some more. Now DON’T be that girl that gets sloppy drunk and starts crying and trying to call the guy. This is counterproductive. If you know you’re the type of woman that gets emotional when drinking too much…DON’T do it. Wait it out before you decide to turn up and you wreck yourself by turning way way down.
2. Do That Thing You Always Said You Wanted To Do
We all have that one thing that we always said we wanted to do. For me it was always having a toned body. So I hit the gym hard. My focus and attention shifted and I was able to accomplish goals after goals. It was so empowering being able to do that first pull-up. I was able to finish an entire spin class without dying. I was able to swim faster than I had ever been able to before. These small wins in life were essential in getting over my ex. Let’s be honest I felt like a badass and looked the part.
So find that thing that you always wanted to do and knock it out of the park.
3. Accept the Past
What has happened has already happened. There is nothing anyone can do to go back in time and change it.
For this reason, the only viable option is to accept it. Leave the past in the past, and focus instead on where you are now: the present. Find the joy in the people and activities that are in your life currently.
4. Feel Your Feelings
Just because you accept the past, doesn’t mean you have to be happy about it. Putting on a fake front or bottling up your true feelings will only exacerbate the issue.
It is one hundred percent okay to feel hurt, discouraged, angry, confused, or anything else. Take the time to acknowledge and feel your emotions without judgement. This is how they can eventually move on.
If you need to cry do it but then get up, wipe those tears and go conquer.
5. Stop Story Telling
Our perceptions are built around the stories we tell ourselves in an attempt to make sense of the world.
If I constantly think, “People leave me,” or “I am unlovable,” then that will be my perception. However, it doesn’t make it true.
Stop the story telling surrounding your past. This also includes replaying the situation over and over or going through all of the imaginary “what if” or “could have been” scenarios.
6. Let It Go
This is an active decision you have to make. Choose to intentionally let go. Holding on to the past isn’t going to alter what has already happened; it is only going to interfere with your present and future.
Find the middle ground between clinging onto your pain and pushing it away by gently letting go. This can be a difficult process, but you cannot make positive change for the future while still clinging to the past.
Forgiveness does not mean you agree with a behavior, it just means you are releasing any resentment. Whether you need to forgive yourself or someone else (or likely both), finding compassion will help you make the leap.
Can you look at the situation from an unbiased perspective? Everyone makes mistakes, and they are typically not malicious in nature. Remember that we are all fallible human beings who, most of the time, are just trying to do our best.
8. Accept the Lesson
Sometimes we end up learning lessons the hard way. A hurtful or challenging situation can bring up a lot of underlying issues that are not being dealt with personally or in relation to others.
Use this as an opportunity to explore these problems and find proactive solutions. You will come out with more awareness and strength on the other side.
9. Surround Yourself with Support
Share your past with friends and family you can trust to be supportive and nonjudgmental. In order to be your authentic self, you need to let them in on the truth.
Allow their positivity and encouragement to help you get your joy back. Emotions can be contagious, so ensure that you surround yourself with happy, loving people who want the best for you as well.
10. Plan for the Future
Instead of dwelling in the past, look forward into the future. Start brainstorming and making plans for the direction you want to take your life. Where do you see yourself one year, five years, and 10 years from now?
By setting goals and making a plan for their achievement, you are inspiring hope for the future. This will motivate you to get up in the morning and go after your dreams